Are you waiting to read that I found love on the dating site I told you about in the October 8 blog, Online Dating – Avoiding a Serial Killer, https://talktimewithjoan.com/2020/10/08/online-dating-avoiding-a-serial-killer/ ? If not long-lasting love, that I at least had a variety of “virtual dates” with interesting, funny, intelligent conversationalists? If not “dates”, that I was at least contacted by a few seemingly nice, normal men for possible interest? The list of probable encounters is narrowing as you read. All right, then, do you think that someone, anyone with a pulse, at least checked my profile? At last, we have a YES.
During my one month trial, about 15 men checked my profile. Here are the results. 10 of them checked and scrolled past. 4 of them sent me a “smile”. In online dating parlance that means that they are interested enough to see if I will “smile” back. More on that in a minute. And one of them sent me a message, which read……………….. “Miss Joan, you need more than head-shot pictures. The men on this site want to see what is below the neck.” Written by a man whose profile consisted of ONE headshot, and dare I say, was extremely unattractive.
As for the 4 men who sent me “smiles”, the profiles of two of them emphasized their love of Bible studies, that they read the Bible daily, and that they hoped to find a woman with whom to share that activity. As I said in my original blog, I respect their right to practice their religion, but Bible studying is not how I want to spend a date.
The 3rd man emphasized his love of hunting………….ALL. THE. TIME. He was looking for a hunting companion. I can assure you that is not me. I still cry when I think about Bambi’s mother.
And then there was the 4th man. As my DOGS=LOVE (https://talktimewithjoan.com/2020/10/16/dogs-love/) blog demonstrates, I am a life-long marshmallow hearted lover of dogs. Big dogs, little dogs, cute dogs, ugly dogs. All dogs. Dogs are more loving and loyal than many humans I know. I made sure that my dog-loving nature was part of my profile. Man #4 stated in his profile that if a woman could not part with her dog, it was a deal-breaker for him.
The dating site sent me a few suggestions of men they were sure would pique my interest. As in the guy who sought out adventure in the manner of …………..mountain climbing. The Walking Queen ( https://talktimewithjoan.com/2020/10/30/the-walking-queen/ ) with the cane. Mountain climbing. Sure.
We are all attracted to a certain “look”, and I did not see my “look” preference in any of the profile pictures I saw. I was unimpressed with the retired lawyer who posted a picture of himself sporting a scruffy beard and dirty, unkempt hair.
We are all swayed by certain language phrases. Mountain climbing and hunting are sure-fire phrases that will cause me to scroll past. However, I did read one profile that grabbed my attention. The man talked about what a great companion his dog was and how much he enjoyed their time together. He did not return my “smile”.
The problem must lie with me. I guess I am too fussy. My late husband is a hard act to follow.
So, dear readers, I am sorry I do not have a blog full of adventurous dating stories for you. But do not despair. I am going to give this one more try with a different dating site. In the meantime, does anyone know a nice widower who likes dogs, regular haircuts, and doesn’t mountain climb?
Your experiences are one we ladies all share. You seem to put it into real words we can relate to. Keep it up. What a joy!
Let’s see…been there, done that, found my guy…but wow, not for the faint of heart!! Don’t give up, gave fun & be safe!