DATING SITE UPDATE

Are you waiting to read that I found love on the dating site I told you about in the October 8 blog, Online Dating – Avoiding a Serial Killer, https://talktimewithjoan.com/2020/10/08/online-dating-avoiding-a-serial-killer/ ? If not long-lasting love, that I at least had a variety of “virtual dates” with interesting, funny, intelligent conversationalists? If not “dates”, that I was at least contacted by a few seemingly nice, normal men for possible interest? The list of probable encounters is narrowing as you read. All right, then, do you think that someone, anyone with a pulse, at least checked my profile? At last, we have a YES.

During my one month trial, about 15 men checked my profile. Here are the results. 10 of them checked and scrolled past.  4 of them sent me a “smile”. In online dating parlance that means that they are interested enough to see if I will “smile” back. More on that in a minute. And one of them sent me a message, which read……………….. “Miss Joan, you need more than head-shot pictures. The men on this site want to see what is below the neck.” Written by a man whose profile consisted of ONE headshot, and dare I say, was extremely unattractive.

As for the 4 men who sent me “smiles”, the profiles of two of them emphasized their love of Bible studies, that they read the Bible daily, and that they hoped to find a woman with whom to share that activity. As I said in my original blog, I respect their right to practice their religion, but Bible studying is not how I want to spend a date.

The 3^rd man emphasized his love of hunting………….ALL. THE. TIME.  He was looking for a hunting companion. I can assure you that is not me. I still cry when I think about Bambi’s mother.

And then there was the 4^th man. As my DOGS=LOVE (https://talktimewithjoan.com/2020/10/16/dogs-love/) blog demonstrates, I am a life-long marshmallow hearted lover of dogs. Big dogs, little dogs, cute dogs, ugly dogs. All dogs. Dogs are more loving and loyal than many humans I know. I made sure that my dog-loving nature was part of my profile. Man #4 stated in his profile that if a woman could not part with her dog, it was a deal-breaker for him.

The dating site sent me a few suggestions of men they were sure would pique my interest. As in the guy who sought out adventure in the manner of …………..mountain climbing. The Walking Queen ( https://talktimewithjoan.com/2020/10/30/the-walking-queen/ ) with the cane. Mountain climbing. Sure.

We are all attracted to a certain “look”, and I did not see my “look” preference in any of the profile pictures I saw. I was unimpressed with the retired lawyer who posted a picture of himself sporting a scruffy beard and dirty, unkempt hair.

We are all swayed by certain language phrases. Mountain climbing and hunting are sure-fire phrases that will cause me to scroll past. However, I did read one profile that grabbed my attention. The man talked about what a great companion his dog was and how much he enjoyed their time together. He did not return my “smile”.  

The problem must lie with me. I guess I am too fussy. My late husband is a hard act to follow.

So, dear readers, I am sorry I do not have a blog full of adventurous dating stories for you. But do not despair. I am going to give this one more try with a different dating site. In the meantime, does anyone know a nice widower who likes dogs, regular haircuts, and doesn’t mountain climb?